How do people create resolutions? Here’s a 6-step model:
- Begin by looking back.
- Enjoy your achievements, then set them aside. [They are not part of resolutions.]
- Review what was not achieved.
- Choose the most important not achieves.
- Write them on a Resolutions list.
- Repeat in 365 days.
Yes, indeed. A 6-step formula that often feeds the inner critic and demoralizes the self. Here’s the thing:
Looking back doesn’t move life forward.
Re-solve. Try, try again.
Looking back at past (there and then) choices, actions and behaviors. Using them to want and hope for a change.
Lose 10, 20, 30, 40 pounds
Exercise 3, 4, 5x/week
Stop: Smoking, Drinking, Swearing, Eating, Lying, Cheating, Whining, Bleating
Find: Partner, Spouse, Job, House
They are re-solutions. Attempts to solve ‘the problem’ anew.
The energy of resolution coalesces around ‘wanting’.
In-tend – feel the difference?
Leaning toward, attending.
The Mission? Grounded. The task? Clear. The attention? Focused.
Intention is action-oriented, goal-directed. Conscious.
In-tending includes clarity – less about task and more about objectives. For example,
I am healthy, fit and active. That’s an intention. [In fact, it's one of mine - I'm giving it to you as a gift. It's just a copy - I'm keeping the original!]
Tasks – actions that might be taken in alignment with this intention might include:
eating healthy, small meals
going to yoga classes, the gym, dance class
going to bed earlier
drinking kombucha, eating bugs, more veggies, less fruit, whatevah!
In reality, this intention fits many shapes and sizes, right? It has a clear objective – self-care, health, well-being. The individual actions emerge through consciously holding the intention.
Shifting to Intention
Moving from Re-solving to In-tending is facilitated through conscious awareness. Tuning in and attending to:
- self – thoughts, beliefs, emotions, actions – taken and not taken
- energy – clearing (see self, above), and the serendipitous flow of the Universe
- next right thing – staying present and open to perceive what emerges
Self – Let’s be clear, monitoring thought is not monkey-mind. It’s observation of what the [monkey] mind is doing. And setting course with a deeper, more organic way of being. [Try breathing, slowly, deeply, consciously. It leads to being.] Thoughts, beliefs, emotions, actions aligned with in-tending create coherence. All else observed, acknowledged and released.
Clearing energy – aligned with intention; releasing obstructions and blockages that otherwise snag and derail movement from idea to form. Acknowledging that the Universe doesn’t decide what to create – it neutrally feeds intent. The opportunities and experiences that emerge offer insight to the coherence of intent, beliefs, thoughts, emotions and actions.
Next right thing – Through self-awareness and alignment, new choices, ways of thinking, experiences, ideas emerge. It’s tough to run an old tape and create the same old result when experiencing life through conscious awareness!
In-tending is an active discipline that yields results through focus, clarity and alignment.
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Blow off your Re-solutions
And get on with In-tending.
Happy Holidays and Keep Your Vital Energy Flowing!