Let’s face it. Every one of us has a story. A trial, a trauma, a pivotal event that has shaped our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.
Stories are important. They’re a way of communicating — to oneself and others — the impact of an experience. Stories bring people together, or provide context for why people are apart.
Your story is a slice of how you became who you are. And if it’s a difficult story, it may loom large in your awareness, may in some way define you. But does it need to?
The Problem with a Story-laden Focus
Here’s the thing:
When healing from an experience, trauma, relationship, rough time in your life, the story can become the focal point, the place where you anchor your awareness. When the story is your focus, it makes it tough for you to heal and move on. Because instead of having your eyes on the prize — the freedom from the experience, trauma, relationship, rough period in your life — you’re more likely to re-enact it through the backward gazing focus on what came before.
Why?
Because where you place your energy influences what you create.
You likely know this quote:
We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
Albert Einstein
I’m not suggesting that Einstein’s quote was directed at healing from trauma or evolving patterns and behaviors. Nor am I suggesting that Einstein’s use of the words, ‘when we created them’ implies that the trauma or difficulty you experienced was your fault.
Yet it does stand to reason that looking back, rehashing your story, living through its lens, attached to and defined by it, makes freedom and resolution a more challenging leap. It’s far easier and freeing to lean forward and focus on breaching the gap between the old story and the life you’d prefer to be living.
I don’t know about you, but I never like to look back as I’m jumping a gap!
Intentional, Evolution-centric Focus
When EHI practitioners learn about energy, they focus on intention — to help their clients hone in on and extend their awareness toward what they want to create. It’s generally the antidote to what’s already occurred.
For example:
- Caretakers focus on self-reliance, and trusting that others are capable of and authorized internally to do their own work, take their own next steps.
- Co-dependents focus on autonomy, on self-actualization, realizing that they have the authority to be their own person and live their own life.
- Anxious clients focus on feeling calm, clear, aligned and present.
These are relatively simple examples, of course. Purposeful for giving you context for thinking about your own situation.
EHI practitioners gather enough of their clients’ story to be able to identify the core energetics, manifesting as patterns, themes, beliefs, emotional blocks or energy regulation issues. Once the core energetics are identified, they turn their attention and focus to intentionally supporting evolution and resolution.
Place Your Focus
Own your story, but don’t let it own you! Use it to create your intention for moving past the experience, relationship, trauma or event. Then, with energy clearing tools as resources, move out of the story and into the life you want to create.
