A couple of weeks ago, a healer shared the quote I’ve paraphrased below on Facebook:
No matter where we are when we meet, within 5 minutes I’ll know your pain, issues, hidden feelings and emotions. Because I’m a reader. It’s who I am and it’s what I do.
No. No. No. Not ok.
Healers must behave more mindfully if they want to take up their rightful place in the alternative and complementary healing field — a $14B service industry in 2016.
Know this: an ability to read people psychically does not confer permission to do so.
Healers who read people in social settings are unprofessional and toxic, and quite often untrained in psychic awareness. The leering quality of this behavior is especially toxic. When meeting someone socially, perhaps for the first time, it’s unlikely that deep, tender emotions and vulnerabilities will be shared.
These psychic healers who read people continuously may not know how to avoid filtering the information they pick up through their own emotions, beliefs and judgments. Doing so skews accuracy in small or perhaps, significant ways. Not that it matters, when you’re being read at a party!
Too often I hear healers say that they can’t help reading people, the ‘lights are always on’. I’ve taught psychic awareness — seeing, hearing, feeling, sensing, knowing, tasting and smelling energy — for more than 25 years. Trust me, there’s an off switch.
When psychic awareness is studied and integrated, the effective practitioner does fairly deep inner work to refine perception. It’s difficult to master accurately reading others without doing this essential inner work to cultivate neutrality and non-attachment.
Consider the following questions:
- Would you consciously choose to work with a healer who had repeated misdemeanor convictions as a Peeping Tom?
- Would you want that person to touch your body, probe your emotional issues and pain, see you in raw, fragile vulnerability?
I didn’t think so. That information is shared with trusted confidantes, or in the container of a healing practice; and if psychic awareness is used, with a clear disclosure that reading the client is part of the session.
It is unethical and inappropriate to read people at a party, outing, chance encounter, over a cup of tea, or meet and greet with or without consent. If the person wants to be read, book an appointment.
Licensed therapists, doctors and other clinical professionals follow a code of ethics that applies to their professional practice and personal lives. Alternative healers are not exempt from ethical practice and appropriate conduct.
If you’ve been taught or you believe that your psychic abilities are spontaneous and cannot be controlled or regulated, please do some research. Find a course within your budget that hones and anchors these skills, and features an off switch! Psychic development needs to be supervised to calibrate perception and ensure clarity. Feedback from a skilled practitioner is essential for mastering psychic awareness.
No one can read you without your consent. You are entitled to respect. Your personal, emotional and physical issues and stories are yours to tell.
If you experience this infringement, know that the healer is:
- violating your right to privacy and choice to disclose
- unskilled and unethical
The intersection of the New Age with alternative and complementary healing has created an efficacy void that frustrates practitioners who have done the hundreds of hours of work it takes to learn, apply and master modalities.
Hopefully the information shared in this post will circulate widely and educate those in the healing field to further their learning. Consumers may have increased ideas about discernment and their choice of resources.
What’s been your experience with alternative and complementary healers? Share your stories with us here, but please do not name names!